Anger Management

No, anger is a sign that something has triggered your primitive brain and your primitive brain is choosing the fight response. The most common response is flight, if you can imagine being faced with a predator, the flight response is the most natural. However, if you can’t run away, the next step is to fight, this means your system has figured out that you have a chance of surviving. These days there are an awful lot of angry people as the world becomes more and more divisive.

The symptoms of anger are basically stress responses such as

• Increased and rapid heart rate
• Sweating palms
• Shaking or trembling
• Light-headedness
• Feeling hot under the collar or around the neck and face
• Headaches
• Clenching your jaw and
• Grinding your teeth whilst you sleep (also known as Bruxism)

There are a few reasons you might get angry so easily.

• The most obvious reason is that your anger is interrupting your sleep, so you are not getting the rest you need, this leaves you with little patience to deal with the day-to-day stuff. Any confrontation, even in a small way, can cause your primitive brain to feel under threat, the smallest trigger can result in you losing your temper. Point
• The next is when an emotional memory image flashes inside your mind and instantly triggers the fight response, hence the saying ‘red rag to a bull’ or ‘I just saw red’. What’s actually happening here, is that at some point in your early life, in a certain situation when you were threatened and you couldn’t run away, you got angry, and it worked. Now many years later your brain has learned that this is your default position. If you’re still alive then it works.
• Forgiveness – If you hold a grudge then that too can create anger. The way to release this is through genuine forgiveness.

Anger is a sign of your system feeling threatened. Fight/flight/freeze responses are triggered when a predator or threat is within our environment. This used to be very simple when we lived in caves and the predators had sharp teeth. In the modern world the predators are far sneakier, yet just as deadly.

Anger management programmes are set up by health professionals, the idea being to create a break between your thoughts and your reaction to them. Aggressive behaviour, when seen as a psychophysiological condition, is a case of targeting the trigger within the mind, that drives the anger.

Anger management techniques should involve an interruption to the subconscious trigger between the mind and the body. This psychophysiological condition is best sorted using techniques to clear the anger response full stop, instead of seeking management support techniques, which invariably fail.

The best way to deal with anger issues is in advance, it’s no use closing the gate when the bull has escaped. Anger is a psychophysiological condition, whereby your mind has a negative emotional memory image (EMI) stored from an adverse experience. Whenever something similar to the original context arises, this triggers the threat response and BHAM! Your amygdala kicks in, smart brain closes down and all hell breaks loose. Later when the red midst clears or the EMI diminishes, you find yourself on the other side of your anger and the results of your primitive brain response.

Anger management skills and anger coping skills are usually part of a mental health programme. The problem with this type of mental health training is that it’s conscious, yet your anger is subconsciously driven. This is why the best skills for the management of anger are the ones that remove the original stimulus that causes your anger to flare up. This way you can rely on yourself and not have to think about coping.

Anger counseling or counselling is a talking therapy approach to helping you to overcome your anger issues. Teaching you how to behave like a sensible, rational adult instead of kicking off like a 5 year old. Anger counselling can take a day, a weekend or even a a couple of months but if it doesn’t address the stimulus response that your mind is using every time you get angry, then what’s the point?

How to control your anger problem is something they teach in combat sports and martial arts. This is because when you get angry your smart brain shuts down and the primitive brain takes over, not a wise decision in the heat of the fight. People with an anger problem have usually gained this as a result of neglect from their parents or caregivers. As children, they have received poor quality feedback for their bad behaviour, which leads to the childhood need for attention growing and growing. The natural response we share with the rest of the animal kingdom is fight, fight or freeze. People with an anger problem subconsciously opt for the fight response. In nature ‘flight’ is the best response as it allows us to remain safe from harm and to survive, so why choose fight? The ‘fight’ response is generally chosen because at no point has the child been genuinely confronted with their bad behaviour and punished accordingly. Therefore the child learns to be more angry in order to get their own way. As an adult the childhood emotional memory images (EMI) fire whenever the person is in a similar situation, with the anger problem raising it’s timeless head, over and over again. Removing the EMI is the most rapid and effective way of taking control of your anger problem, permanently.

Tools for angry outbursts like count to 10 or take deep breaths are all well and good, but when the red mist comes down, they are out of the window! The best tool for anger problems is to remove the negative emotional memory image that resides inside your mind. This is what triggers your anger and clearing it removes the fight response that your primitive brain is accessing. From this point on you won’t need tools to manage anger because you will have full control over your feelings.

Skills that help you to cope with angry feelings are usually taught via counselling or CBT techniques. If you are an adult who needs a hand with aggressive behaviour, do you want to manage it or do you want 100% control over your anger? Anger is driven by a negative emotional memory image (EMI) that is stored inside your mind, usually a result of an adverse childhood experience. This EMI appears whenever you find yourself in a similar situation to the original one and as soon as it does BHAM! You’re are back there and your anger rages like a tornado! Clearing the EMI removes this stimulus response, leaving your free to decide your next move, intelligently, rationally and consciously.

Healthy ways to deal with anger includes speaking in the moment that something occurs. If someone has said or done something that upsets you, then speak in the moment, explain to them that you don’t accept what they have done or said. This allows you to keep your mind and body flowing. If you allow this moment to go by unchecked then you are allowing your anger to be fuelled and it will come out at a later point. Deal with the mole hill before it becomes a mountain.

Definitely. Depending on the type of anger you have, if you are willing to forgive and work with reprogramming or dehypnotising your mind, then a calmer response to life may be just moments away. Hypnosis can easily create the optimum state of mind that will allow your temper to fade. Some of my techniques can create change in one session, whilst others may take a little longer, hence the audio download can be done in your own good time.

Hypnotherapy is a form of professional help that you can do at home using an audio download. Hypnotherapy can target the below conscious trigger that causes your anger to fire up. You can begin controlling anger at home by creating a whole new way of experiencing your reality. Calmly and comfortably in control of your emotions, always.

Anger is a natural part of life that we all experience, with different things triggering different people. We usually get angry in reaction to frustration, criticism, or threats to what we perceive as normal or acceptable. Being constantly exposed to situations that trigger anger can result in uncontrollable outbursts, an inability to think rationality, the build up of stress, and fatigue. 

This audio production is designed to help the listener with overcoming anger issues. By clearing negatively charged Emotional Memory Images from your external screen, your mind and body are able to adapt to the present moment, allowing you to enjoy life free of negative subconscious associations. This audio is your own personal 1 to 1 session with Matt, always available at your convenience.

Matt’s calming, assuring voice gently guides both your conscious mind and unconscious mind towards healing through the left and right ear respectively. By tapping into the body’s psychoneuroimmunilogical mechanisms – the link between the mind, nervous system and physical wellbeing – this audio promotes more control over your mental and emotional faculties and the resulting physical relaxation.

For best results, listen to this audio download first thing in the morning or during the day, every day for 4 weeks. Ensure you’re free from interruptions and distractions when listening to this audio. Download now to start overcoming anger today.

This audio is a .MP3 file, compatible with smartphones, tablets, PC’s and other electronic devices.

Audio length: 30 minutes.